Avoid People's Games,
Connect More Authentically With Others,
And Get The Rewarding Social Life
You've Always Wanted...?"
you've ever wanted to TRANSFORM YOURSELF
from shy and socially awkward
into an amazing social leader,
about to learn information
that will absolutely change your life...
CARLOS XUMA'S DESK: Friday, 5:43 PM.
The one skill that they don't teach you about in school is also the one that will either make you a great success in life, or struggle like crazy to realize your dreams... and you might never reach them.
I'm going to tell you all about this skill in a second, but first let me ask you a couple questions:
- Have you ever been in a social situation where you
just knew someone was messing with you,
but you didn't know what to do about it?
- Have you ever had someone in your family that just
knew exactly how to put you on the spot - and they'd leave you with
that shaky, angry feeling because you
knew you'd been made a fool out of?
- Have you ever known a person who could just predict
everything you were going to say, and leave you with no ammo at all,
and you felt like you were totally manipulated? And
- Did you ever suspect there are unwritten "rules" to
socializing that you just don't "get"? That if you just knew the
"rules" that these people are using for their games, you could at least
be on a level playing field?
- Do you ever feel like you've missed opportunities
with somebody - maybe a romantic interest - because you don't
have the right skills to respond correctly and make the
interaction "count" for more?
- Do you often feel like you're missing a depth and a
level of relationship connection that you
want to achieve because you don't understand how to get past your
Now, on the other hand, have you ever been with someone who:
- Could de-fuse any confrontation and
make friends in the process?
- Could spot when they were being played
or manipulated - and somehow turn it back around on the other person?
- Always knew the right thing to say to
put someone in their place?
- Knew how to read a social situation in
just a few seconds and "feel out" everyone in the group?
I always wanted to be that person.
I was so shy growing up that I never really got an
understanding of social dynamics the way some people seemed to. They
always seemed so natural with it, too, which made it even harder to
believe that I'd ever figure it out.
A long while back, I remember going to a singles party where everyone
was really uptight and hard to talk to. I felt a little uncomfortable
because it felt like they weren't really there to meet people and have
You might recognize some of the clues I saw of weird "gamey" behavior at this party:
- A lot of the guys were very aggressive and insecure...
- Many of the women seemed guarded and distant -
and I found myself suckered into buying drinks - without
getting any phone numbers...
- A lot of people seemed to push emotional buttons
on me like I was a remote control...
- Almost no one there seemed like they were there to have a good time...
they all seemed to have an agenda.
You probably figured this out already, but what I felt and didn't recognize
until later was this:
And Playing Social Games With Me..."
The experience felt so awful at the time, and the people seemed so difficult, mostly because I didn't know how to handle it when people played social games with me. The party probably wasn't as bad as I remember it, but my social skills were.
And I've still found people like this lurking almost everywhere in my life. At work, at the bars and clubs, at parties and social gatherings... even at family gatherings.
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You May Have
Felt This Way Before...
Maybe you've experienced something like my bad "party experience," or even situations like this:
- - You go to a car dealership to shop around and you
don't want to buy anything, but after several hours you find yourself
driving home in a new car that you had no intention of buying. But he
made it sound so good, and you got a SWEET deal... How
did you fall for that...?
- - You're in a meeting with a co-worker, and she
starts to undermine your abilities and performance in the meeting, but
you can't figure out how she's doing it because she's not directly insulting you. What kind of Game is she playing...?
- - You're hanging out with your friends and someone
makes a sly comment about you, and they all chuckle. You go along with
it because you don't want to look like you're "uptight" or "un-cool."
But somewhere deep inside, you know you were just put-down... Do
you know how to deal with it...?
- - You're at a family get-together, having dinner
together, and your mother starts bugging you about your job, and
starting to manipulate you with guilt and fear. As usual, you end up
angry and blow up, and eventually you tell her to mind her own
business. You end up looking like the jerk, but it was the way
she did it that pushed your buttons... How do
you stop this from happening...?
- - You're out with a friend, and you see a couple of
women you want to go talk to. Finally your friend drags you over and
you start talking with them. The longer you talk, though, the more your
friend seems to be the one getting the attention, and you start getting
more and more quiet... How can you stop
feeling socially awkward and
stay in the conversation...?
I'm pointing these situations out because I have been through ALL of them. And every time one of them happened, I thought of the perfect thing to say to handle the situation - only an hour too late.
Wouldn't it be great if you could think of the right thing to say in these situations to destroy the game-playing right away - instead of later as you're walking away...?
But This Is
REALLY Scary Part...
The games other people play with us are NOTHING compared to the games we play on ourselves.
You see, there's two kinds of games going on out there - the games we play with other people, and the ones we play in our own heads.
You want an example of one that every guy can relate to?
You're talking with a woman at a bar, and the conversation is going well. She obviously needs to leave, and you know it's time to go for the close. So you ask her:
"Hey, can I have your phone number to talk with you again? Maybe go out for a bite sometime?"
She tells you she's not home that much or she would give it to you. "But give me your phone number and I'll call you," she says. You give her your number, even though you know at the back of your head that won't hear from her. You know - deep in your gut - that you needed to just push a little more for her number so that you could make that second meeting happen.
But you gave in and wussed out.
This is a classic game that a lot of guys play inside their own heads where they will settle for giving their own phone number on the wishful thinking that they impressed her so much that she'll "definitely call!"
Even though we know that only 1 in 50 women ever will. (Probably much fewer...)
It's a way for us to let ourselves down easy, and not risk coming away with nothing at all for the time we spent talking to her. After all, there's still a chance she'll call... isn't there?
The skill of knowing how to handle your own internal games is something called "intra-personal skills," and it's something I will touch on again in a minute...
No More Games...!"
I'm sick of all the games.
I bet you are, too, aren't you? And you're absolutely right to be sick of them.
There's something else I want you to know that is VERY important...
How you handle the social games people play will determine:
- How much money you will make at your
- The quality of person you date ...
and wind up marrying...
- How much fun you have when you go out
- The depth and intimacy you have in
your relationships - with your family, your friends, and your lover...
- Your overall level of happiness, security, and confidence that you experience every day...
Does that sound serious to you?
It should, because in nearly EVERY study performed on the happiest, the most successful, the most fulfilled people in the world, they all came back with the same finding, time after time after time.
This probably won't come as a surprise to you, but the
discovery was this:
*Quality of Life*
and how attractive you are
to the opposite sex
is DIRECTLY related to
how strong your social skills are...
This has nothing to do with genetics, intelligence, or the forces that you might think of as being "out of your control..."
It really has nothing to do with upbringing or social status, either...
In nearly every person with any great level of success and fulfillment in their lives, the only thing that mattered was how well they managed the other people in their lives.
I was blown away when I discovered that, and it really changed the way I looked at the world. For years I had believed that there were certain people who were just luckier than others, or just had the gift of "people skills..."
I thought that was why some guys just got more women than others, and why some women are more successful with men. They must be smarter or better looking, and that's why they got more dates than me.
I just accepted this belief that these people had something "special" - a natural talent that I didn't have.
Every time I saw my friends being more successful with socializing, being more popular with other people - and the more that I didn't make friends, or attract women, or make connections - the more I reinforced that false belief.
What I didn't realize was that I was creating this flawed foundation upon which my entire social life - and even my dating life - was being built. It was shaky and unsteady, and it couldn't possibly help me get the kind of lifestyle I wanted to live.
Look, I have to admit something...
Until I was in my late 20s, I was socially CLUELESS.
I would go out and not have the faintest idea of how to handle a conversation when I got into it. I usually ended up talking about the one topic I knew the most.
You know how they say that you should "talk about what you know about"?
Well the problem was, the only topic I talked about was ME.
I would just yammer on and on about my life and all about me, not understanding how it was turning people off. Or I just wouldn't see what was going on in the conversation to figure out when I was being manipulated or de-valued.
I was making a lot of OTHER social mistakes, too, without even knowing it...
This lack of social skill and ability was killing a BIG
part of my social life.
success I got socially,
the MORE it seemed to
lower my self-esteem
in other areas, too..."
And I would get VERY self-conscious in social situations, because I always felt like other people were getting the better of me, or that they were just waiting to use something I said against me in some way.
This might sound a little paranoid, but when you don't know how to handle people's games, you do start to get very defensive.
I even found myself becoming very negative about people in general. I started avoiding social situations because I didn't have a very good opinion of other people. And I didn't have a good opinion because of how I felt after talking with them or feeling like I was being "played."
For a while there I got pretty angry about it, too.
Maybe you've felt similar to this from time to time, too. That other people are just flaky, manipulative, and self-centered...?
And - even worse - you start to feel like you can't trust anybody, either... You want to, but you get a little frustrated because you can't figure out what's going on in their games.
Now that I'm older, I can see these situations for what they are, but I also realized this:
ONE out there shows you
how to spot these social games
and avoid them in the first place...
Really. Think about it:
|Has anyone ever sat you down and explained how people try to manipulate you with guilt?|
|Has anyone ever showed you how other people can trick you into doing what THEY want you to do?|
|Has anyone ever explained to you how people use your insecurities and fears as a way to steer or control you?|
Yet it's being done to you all the time.
And usually you figure it out after they've gamed you - after they got you to do what they wanted, or after you say what they want to hear, or you've given them what they want...
Then the next time it happens, it's a slightly different situation, and you have to try and spot the game all over again - but you still don't have a plan or a technique to avoid playing it the next time it comes up.
And the worst part of this feeling I had about my social ability was that I had NO IDEA where or how to start turning it around. How do I learn these social skills that I saw other people using all the time...?
These people seemed like such master communicators with this GIFT for handling people. I had no idea where to start learning how they do it. After all, to get social skills and confidence, you need to hang out and talk to people... and I didn't have the confidence to go hang out and talk to people, so how could I ever get those skills...?
I was in a catch-22! It was a double-bind.
I had nowhere to get started, and I spent over ten years in this frustrated state.
I literally felt like a rat in one of those mazes, trying desperately to find the secret exit to get out. Because I knew if I could just get a look at the maze from above instead of being stuck IN it, I could find the solution.
Then I finally figured it out...
Solution is to Step Back
And Use Simple Social Kung-Fu..."
I finally found a way to get myself on track, but it took a lot of work to figure it out - and it's not something I would ever want you to have to find by trial and error. I know it's not fun to beat your head against the wall just so it feels good when you stop.
The good thing is that you don't have to go through that pain.
If you're reading this right now, and you can identify with any of the situations I've just talked about, then what you're about to read next is probably going to change your life - forever.
I'm not kidding - it's THAT important.
You've probably experienced the frustration of being under the spell of a manipulative person at some point, haven't you?
It's disorienting and confusing, because you often don't know how they managed to do to you what they did, but you're left standing there, smacking your forehead and feeling like you've been had.
You didn't see it coming, did you?
I went through years and years of research trying figure out what was happening in these social situations. I read TONS of self-help books, and very few of them really had any real explanation about what was happening. Nothing I found helped me to figure out the "rules" of these games people play. I even went to seminars on group and relationship dynamics, but no luck.
In the end, I didn't get almost any of my strategies from those books or seminars.
I got these secrets from other PEOPLE.
I got very lucky to find some friends who I knew had some very powerful - and yet compassionate - methods for handling people who try to play games with you.
The funny thing was that when I pinned these "social naturals" down to help me out, most of them didn't have the slightest idea they were using social strategies like this to manage game players and social manipulators. When I sat them down and described some of the things I saw that they were doing, they were as amazed as I was.
You see, they had learned these things on an intuitive level that you and I never got to develop.
If someone has won a social game situation, or avoided a manipulator or a socially dangerous personality, they've used a technique or tactic to do it. A "technique" is just knowing the right thing to say at the right time.
But here's the best part:
If they have a method for handling social games, it can be broken down, taken apart, and you can learn it - just like any other skill out there.
AND you can use them to destroy the games you play in your own head, as well as the ones other people play with you.
"Here Are 3
Game Playing Personalities
You Must Be Able To Spot
Before They Manipulate You..."
As I studied these "naturals" at social strategy, there were three general types of people that these social experts all seemed to agree were the most dangerous - and the most important to spot before they game you. I want to tell you about all three right here so you can be on your guard...
GAME PLAYER 1: The Emotional Vampire
This is the person who we all know - usually a member of our family - that seems to just drain us dry of our energy. Every time you interact with them, your brain feels like you've just gone through a six hour final exam in algebra. You're sapped and depleted.
And you simply dread talking to them.
Pretty soon, you just avoid being around them at all, if you can help it.
Another part of you realizes that if you do avoid them, then THEY are the ones who are still winning the game, even without you around.
But a lot of the time, you can't avoid them because they're your co-workers, or your family...
Sometimes it's the person you're in a serious relationship with.
- How do you spot this personality type?
Well, if you find yourself emotionally exhausted after dealing with a certain person in your life, and they leave you feeling worse than you did before you started talking with them, there's a good chance this person is an emotional vampire.
They steal your energy with any number of subtle maneuvers, most you don't notice until you're caught up in their game, and by then it's too late.
Also, if you find yourself dreading or resisting contact with this person because of the emotional drain they put on your batteries, chances are they're a vampire of some kind.
If you've ever seen a name come up on your phone and you found yourself turning off the ringer without answering it, and there was no reason you couldn't have taken the call - except maybe that sense of avoidance - well, you probably felt that person was going to be a potential vampire.
- How do you deal with them?
Don't let them get their teeth in your neck!
The best defense here is a best offense, which is made up of my 3-part strategy:
1) Start by recognizing how they work, and being prepared for them up front.
You need to recognize their game before they blow the whistle and start the play. If you can't see what they're up to, you'll probably find yourself just scratching your head later trying to figure out how you got twisted around their finger...
2) Let them make their first move...
You can't just try to beat them to the punch, or the social player will just switch to a new tactic. You have to let them show you their cards, and then you can choose your own strategy.
3) And Then WATCH and MANAGE their play...
When they've revealed their cards, you can then use your own skills to create your own winning hand. (Okay I'm done with the game metaphors. Mostly.) Once you have them invested in their approach, you can then use it to steer the social dynamics toward a win-win finish.
That's the really special thing about what I teach you - you're going to learn how to get BOTH you and them to win!
What if you run into someone that doesn't just drain your energy, but they try to get something from you? This is the next kind of gamer...
GAME PLAYER 2: The Emotional Blackmailer
This type of social game player plays games as a form of extortion - to get favors, or any number of possible rewards they can pull from the situation.
We've all played this one at some point or another. In its most innocent form, you may have just wanted to get a little appreciation from someone in your life.
Have you ever done a favor and said, "Oh, it was nothing..." but what you really wanted to hear was how it was a big something to the other person?
That's a small kind of game. Innocent enough, but still a game.
Maybe you've met this kind of person:
- The woman who gets you to do favors for her because
you fear being rejected or emotionally abandoned...
- The aunt that calls you up in the middle of the day
to get your help running errands (when you already had things to do),
but you can't refuse her because she would gossip to
everyone else in your family about just how
"thoughtless" and "heartless" you are...
- The girlfriend who knows how to stroke your ego at
the right time to make you feel manly one minute, but then she knows
how to start withdrawing her approval and withholding
affection because she knows you'll work hard and do
whatever she wants to get it back...
- The guy in a relationship that criticizes
his girlfriend constantly to play on her insecurities
and make sure she won't leave him...
- The manager who knows exactly how to make you afraid
that your performance appraisal will be bad if you don't help his team
out on their 'special project'... After all, you
don't want to appear uncooperative, do
All of these people are playing a powerful kind of emotional game with us - Blackmail. What they do, through some subtle - and sometimes not-so-subtle games is put us in a position where we are forced to do something to avoid a nasty embarrassment of some kind.
The reason they do this is sometimes people don't know the healthy way of getting what they want, so they use this game on us. They may not mean to play a game, but it comes out anyway.
- How do you spot this personality type?
If you feel like you did something against your will to avoid a negative outcome - an outcome that the other person could control - then chances are you were blackmailed.
- How do you deal with them?
The best offense is a great defense, and especially so with this type of game player.
Keep your eyes open, and don't let their actions fly under your radar. Very often, the emotional blackmailer loses their ability to control you or manipulate you when you expose their game out into the open.
But there's a particularly nasty game player that doesn't try to hide it. In fact this type flaunts their power over you. It's the...
GAME PLAYER 3: The Emotional Bully
Just like the bully on the playground, this is the person that pushes you around and uses you to achieve their own goals and ends.
- Maybe this is the person at work that pushes you into
helping them for fear of their influence and power -
or their ability to damage your career...
- Maybe this is the guy you met while you're out at a
club, and he intimidates you with his overbearing personality - or embarrasses
you in public so that he can push you out of the
picture, meet the woman you're with, and steal her for himself...
- Maybe this is the woman that creates uncomfortable social situations - like crying fits or emotional tantrums - to get you to give in to her demands...
Quite honestly, these people can also be emotional terrorists.
Look, I know how charged a word that can be... Terrorist. Ouch.
I even debated mentioning it at all, but when I wrote it down, I knew that I was just telling the Truth.
(NOTE: When you're pushed into shame about your politically "INcorrect" views or comments, this is also a form of game playing and emotional manipulation that people will often use to control you.)
- How do you spot this personality type?
The Emotional Bully is the kind of person can literally make your life a living hell with constant demands, emotional tirades, and total unpredictability. They leave you with a feeling of dread and anxiety 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
If you find yourself feeling this way, or pushed into doing things for another person frequently, you're probably in a relationship with a bully.
- How do you deal with them?
If you sense that you might be dealing with an emotional bully, remember that these covert abusers are often very good at covering their tracks, so other people might not see what you are experiencing. The best way to start is to make a note of abusive incidents so that you can review them later on when your head is clear.
One thing that you must get in the habit of doing is to not let the emotions of a game playing situation run away from you so that you react badly and only make your situation worse.
But the good news is that the emotional bully responds to some very simple strategies that end their games FAST. They are, in fact, one of the easiest game players to deal with once you've identified them.
Is There Any Hope...?
What I thought was just one problem - not having social skills - was actually TWO problems in one.
The first problem was that I wasn't SEEING the games people were playing and what they were doing.
The second problem was that even if I did identify what they were doing, I didn't know what to do to avoid being manipulated.
I am excited to say that there is a happy ending to this story. For both me and you.
With all that I've told you, you might be thinking that everyone is out to get you, just waiting to make your life a living hell.
Don't get paranoid. That's not true at all. Most of the social gamers are not playing you intentionally, even when it seems like they are.
You see, these game-playing people didn't grow up with a big fat reference book on their shelf called "How to Play Games With People." They weren't taught how to play games...well, at least not directly.
We learned how to play games and manipulate like this from examples of other people. Usually by our families. We saw what worked and what didn't to get results, and we adopted those strategies.
Let's face it:
Any situation where you're being emotionally manipulated is an opportunity for you to shine - IF you know how to handle the game player, and WHAT TO SAY to end the confrontation correctly...
And the cool thing is...
how to manage people -
and avoid the games
and manipulation entirely..."
Oh, and an even cooler part of this is that once you can spot the games other people are playing, you can also get rid of your games.
Yes, you play games, too. We all do.
Once you accept this and learn the rules, the games aren't a problem anymore.
In fact, you'll find yourself looking forward to finding new and more intricate situations to figure out for yourself. It sounds funny, but you'll actually feel excited to go find new and interesting people to talk with and get to know, because you'll feel so confident and capable in your social ability.
It actually becomes FUN to
play with people and get into social dynamics - no matter what
kind, because you know that whatever someone can come up with, you
have an arsenal of social skills of your own to handle
them. And your social network will explode without you even realizing
Part is This...
When you have developed these social skills, you'll find that you can actually connect with people on a much deeper and more AUTHENTIC level than ever before.
I noticed that when I would talk to people, and I could get past the games, I was able to really establish an indestructible sense of rapport.
This happened with women, men - everyone I socialized with.
It got to the point where I had to start being very careful with this skill because people were forming some unhealthy dependencies on me. One woman even told me she felt like I understood her ten times more than her therapist...
You see, it's not just about dealing with all the people out there as potential enemies that you have to protect yourself against. I don't want you to think that I'm going to teach you how to be a fortress of solitude and lack that human compassion...
This is really about developing your vital social powers to the point where you can actually let down your guard and get REAL with people like you never thought possible.
Most people don't realize just how counter-productive and unnecessary their social games are, and they desperately need the other person to help them get past the games.
That person can be YOU.
Something Truly Unique
And Incredible For
Your Social Skills..."
Until now, there was NOWHERE you could go to learn social skills and abilities like the ones I've discussed here.
You either had "it" or you didn't... and if you didn't, the only way you could figure these skills out was to be as thick-skulled as I am and spend years figuring it all out on your own.
A moment ago I told you about how I managed to capture some of these "natural" people - the men and women that are socially successful in any situation. They are like chameleons, able to blend into any social situation and make it work for them.
Well, their knack for social power can also work for YOU.
I managed to capture their techniques and their social strategies for you to learn.
What I did was create a home-study audio program where you can learn these Power Social Skills in your car, on the bus, or anywhere you like.
I just put the finishing touches on a personal development program called the "Power Social Skills - Social Dynamics" Program - where I will teach you how to handle or destroy any social games, avoid manipulation, identify the dangerous personalities out there, and get REAL & AUTHENTIC connection with just about anyone.
This program is the very first of its kind, designed from the ground up to help you overcome any of your social limitations and pull you out into the world like never before.
This program was created and structured to help you go from wherever you may be in your social abilities - from poor to average, or even good social ability - all the the way to COMPLETE SOCIAL MASTERY.
Unfortunately, most men and women NEVER learn more than a small fraction of the information that I've put together in this program - if they learn any of it at all.
PLAY to Hear a
Sample Audio Preview of the " .
Here Are The Specific Power Social Skills You're Going to Learn in This Program:
The Kinds of Social Games You'll Learn About In This Social Dynamics
Games Lovers Play
Games Friends Play
Games Enemies Play
Games Families Play
Games Coworkers Play
Games You Play With Your Own Head - Self-esteem and Inner Games
You'll learn how to SEE the games when they appear, UNDERSTAND how the social dynamics work, KNOW what the other person is trying to accomplish with the game, have the RIGHT WORDS to say to them, and ACHIEVE REAL CONNECTION with them...
One thing I wanted when I was working hard on my social skills was a playbook that would just explain all the ways we play each 0ther when we're in conversations...
Or with our families...
Or at parties...
Or at work...
The list goes on and on.
But I couldn't find a book even remotely like this ANYWHERE. No self-help book had anything like it, or any of the tape and CD programs I got.
So I made one myself.
In fact, in my Power Social Skills program, I devoted 5 whole hours to cover all the tricky tactics and devices people will use to influence you and turn you around. When I let a few of my friends listen to them, every one of them said they would have paid anything to get this kind of priceless information.
Every One of These Social Games,
and Show You How to Win Every One of Them:
Salting the Jar Game
The Reject and Retreat Game
The Abusive Expectations Game
The Invalidation Abuse Games
The Minimizing Game
The Unpredictable Responses Game
Vilifying the Victim Game
Playing the Servant Game
Pretend Confusion game
The Disempowered Game
Let Me Quit First Game
The Approval Junkie Game
The Blame Game
The Atlas Syndrome
The "You're Too Happy" Game
The "You Made Me" Game
The "Redefine the Past" Game
"Yeah, I know but..." Game
The Withholding Game
The Boys & Girl Games
The You Monster Game
The complainer game
The "Being Offended" Game
The Paralysis game
The Argument Game
The Truth-Telling Game
The "I don't understand you" Game
The "Do it for me" Game
The Politeness Game
The Small Dig Game
The Start a Fight Game
The "He Hit Me First" Game
The Distorted Question Game
The "BUT" Game
The "People Should" Game
The "So now you're on their side...?" Game
The "Just Being Honest" Game
The "Idol Worship" Game
The Machine Gun Question Game
The Silence Your Dreams Game
The Condescending Apology Game
The Denial Game
The Explosion Game
The "How Are You" Game
The Collector Game
The Denying game
The Labeling Game
The Upset Game
Ask a question to be smart Game
Conspicuous Boredom Game
The Questioning Game
The Sympathy Game
The Demanding Love Game
The Pressure Game
The Comparison Game
The Rescuer Game
The Justification Game
The Deadly Why Game
The conditioned acceptance Game
The "I couldn't help it..." Game
The "You did WHAT...?" Game
The "But you said..." Game
The "How could you!" Game
The "Woe Is Me" Game
The Whining Game
The "It's Not Fair" Game
The Shark Attack Game
The Royal "We" Game
The Shifting Balance of Power Game
The Presupposition game
The Silence Game
The Manipulation Question Game
The Third-Man Game
The Quick Flip Game
The Don't Attack the Victim Game
The "Disappointed" Game
The "Forgiving" Game
The "Demand and Command" Game
The Go Away - Come Closer Game
The "I Know Your Script" Game
The Relentless Game
The Assumed Accomplishment Game
The Commandment Game
The Dominance Game
The Subtle Straw Man Game
The Eenie-Meenie Game
The Expert Game
The Fake emergency game
The proxy attacker Game
The Emotional Backlash Game
The Questioning Your Problem game
The Telling You Your Feelings Game
Defend the other person Game
Sarcasm and Mocking Games
Guilt Trip Games
The Cliche Game
The Intolerance Game
The Intentional Eavesdrop Game
Winning the Silent Treatment Game
The Lying Game
The "I Love You" Game
The Excessive Gratitude Game
The Gift Giving Game
The "Label the Monster" Game
The Self Put-down Game
The "They say..." Game
The "Why can't you be more like..." Game
The Keep Up Appearances Game
The Liar Game
The Already Over Game
The "You Should Have..." Game
The "Why did you do it that way...?" Game
The "You said THIS before" Game
The "If Only..." Game
The Blame Game
The "How could you!" Game
The Talker Game
The Veiled Threat Game
Fear of Success Game
The Feathers Game
The Flake Game
The "Give Them a Choice" Game
The Go/No-Go Game
The Joker Game
The Prove Yourself Game
The Put You In Your Place Game
The Scrambled Defense Game
The Explanation Game
You've probably played more than your fair share of these social games with people before. You may have noticed their games, or more likely you didn't even see them coming.
You may have been manipulated by this game player, or you might have gotten out of the game by luck.
But one thing is for sure:
Once you've listened to this program, you won't be pulled into them again.
How You Can Know If This Program Is For You...
There's an important reason why I feel that EVERY person out there needs to have a copy of this program, and I'll come back to this in a moment.
First, you need to know if this is a program that will work specifically for YOU.
Read these questions - either aloud or in your head -
and answer them. As you go through each one, you'll find yourself
thinking about how your life will be different when you're able to
solve these situations on your own...
- Does it feel like when you meet people out in
social situations that you have ALMOST NO ability to
really connect with them? Or worse, they just don't seem
to want to start a friendship of any kind
- Do you ever feel frustration
when you're manipulated by other people, and knowing that if you could
just figure out how to respond, you could avoid
the pain and make things work better for
you - AND for them?
- Do you worry about getting too
"close" to people, because the more that you open
yourself up to them, the more power you could be giving them to
possibly hurt you or manipulate you down
- Do you find yourself getting angry
at someone you feel has manipulated you ... and the next minute you're
the best of friends again when they figure out how to
push your buttons and win you over again? You hate
yourself for it, but you can't help it... they're just so
good at playing you.
- Do you ever experience sadness or
frustration that you're not able to connect with people
on a meaningful level that feels REAL to
- Do you ever feel like some people are just "fake,"
even though you know there is something more going on under the surface
- if you could just get past all their tricks and game-playing?
- Do you ever feel slighted or hurt when you know
other friends are getting called to participate in events, but you're
not included on those plans, and you think that it might
have something to do with how social you are?
- Have you ever felt "lost" in a conversation, not
knowing what happened - but that something DID
happen and you missed out on the subtle clues?
- Do you feel like you repeat your interactions with
people again and again, not being able to figure out how to break
the unhealthy cycle of arguments, games, or weirdness
- Do you feel like you're not on a level playing
field with the opposite sex, or your family, or other people who play
you all the time - and you feel at a constant
- Do you often feel that a lot of the games people
are playing can be pretty innocent at heart, even unintentional, but
they could also be steered to a much better ending - helping both of
you win the game?
- Are you frequently caught off guard
by questions from people, not sure how you should
respond to them? Or if there's a meaning below the surface of what
they're asking you?
- Do you feel uncomfortable with
confrontations and awkward social situations?
- Do you feel like you could repair or
improve relationships with people in your family - or
even friends - if you could just figure out how to communicate better
- Would you like to get more romantic
connections and dating opportunities?
- Would you like to make more friends
by having better social skills and more authentic interactions with
- Would you like to feel the happiness
and confidence of being more skilled with social
interactions, knowing that you can get the results you want?
- Wouldn't it feel fantastic to get phone calls all
the time from other people asking you to go out with them and enjoy
new experiences, and have so many people calling that
you have trouble finding the time to get together with them all?
The reason I asked about those situations is because I feel that most everyone - men and women- have had similar experiences or felt this way at some point or another.
"Sometimes we've felt the pain of these situations much more than we care to admit..."
And each of those situations I just described just leads down a longer road of frustration and unhappiness when you realize that you're not getting any better at handling the game players and manipulators. And that you can't seem to connect with people the way you'd like.
These are also the problem situations that I personally had to overcome.
I isolated these particular situations because these are just some of the ones that we'll tackle in the Power Social Skills - Social Dynamics Program. We'll be able to resolve them and get you feeling comfortable in any social situation, confident that you will NOT be gamed ever again.
As I mentioned before, if you have social challenges of any kind, then they will always be the limiting part of your relationships with other people - just like the weakest link in a chain determines its strength.
If you don't build your relationships with other people on a strong foundation of powerful social skills, you'll always be trying to "catch up" to other people ... and you'll probably feel way behind in your ability to manage the games people try to pull you into.
This may seem like a huge area to tackle - your social skills - but fortunately when you address just a few key areas, as we will in this program, the rest will actually take care of themselves along the way.
If you found yourself relating to ANY of those situations, and if you've ever wanted to discover how to relate better to the important people in your life, then you owe it to yourself to try my Power Social Skills - Social Dynamics Program.
I really feel this is the most exciting thing I've created in the last ten years of helping people with their relationships and understanding interpersonal dynamics.
Are a Few Success Stories From My Students...
CLICK to hear Scott: "I was searching for an answer... It was like you made it just for me... It's an amazing mindset to have... I see the world MUCH MUCH differently..."
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"I've been signing up to Carlos' programs for two years, and while they've all been excellent the 'Power Social Skills' is indeed his masterpiece. The thing about self-development is ultimately you can't develop yourself in a vacuum; we're here to make the best of ourselves, and that inevitably leads to interaction with the people we share our lives with and come into contact with generally. But how to compete and jossle with people without seeking to put anyone down or compromise yourself as a person? Carlos condenses hours and hours of study of psychology books, common sense insights and all-round observations of people into just over 15 hours of quite superb teachings. And I was blown away with the result. Now I don't need to study for my own Masters in Psychology; it's all here. I've never met the man, but I love where he's coming from. Thanks, Carlos - fantastic program!"
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happened to you... And, as much as I hate to admit it. It's happened to
For the last few days, you and your girl have been walking on eggshells. You had a conversation that left you at a standstill. You're both feeling angry and a bit frustrated...
She wants to go on a weekend trip with the girls to Vegas. Usually it would be no problem, but this weekend you have something planned...
You want to go skiing, or have a hot weekend at home... the list goes on and on... and on.
One day, she surprises you. She sends you flowers at work, signed with a card saying 'I love you!' You get home from work and find that she's made your favorite dinner. You sit on the couch enjoying a glass of wine, she starts to massage your shoulders... You're thinking how wonderful your girl is...
And, she has you - right where she wants you... Then she asks, 'Is it okay if I go away with the girls?'
You want to say 'No' but you can't. She's done all these nice things for you and you don't want to come off like a needy guy and you definitely don't want to come off like a jerk. So, instead you say...'Sure.'
And you HATE yourself for it. Why...?
Because you've been manipulated, duped... You've been 'played'.
I recently had the opportunity to learn about these social situations - these "social games" - through Carlos Xuma's audio program 'Power Social Skills'.
And I have to say that it's eye opening... maybe even life changing!
There's so much packed in this program...
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If I'd had a program like this earlier in my life, I know that I'd have stronger, genuine and lasting connections in all my relationships. Relationships with family and friends and women that weren't based on false pretense, false hopes and expectations.
But, it's not too late. I listen to Carlos' words and advice on a daily basis - learning and growing. Applying all the useful information to every aspect of my life, whether it's dealing with my EX, my mother, my brother, or my boss at work. I try and turn every interaction, especially if it's negative, into a situation that I can walk away from like I wasn't being 'played...'
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Overall, you were the only one that took the initiative to create a program like this; nobody else had the solid balls. I give you infinite credits for that.
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- Jason H.
"Hi Carlos, I just wanted to say that I've finished your Power Social
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Why You Owe
It To Yourself
And Every Person You Meet
For the Rest Of Your Life
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What makes this program different?
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Something I learned on this path to personal enrichment is that every skill - even social skills - can be learned if you just practice the right way.
You see, I think it's like this...
"People everywhere want to make more friends, have deeper and more meaningful relationships, and just get past all that weirdness that we tend to throw into our social lives..."
But no one teaches us these SKILLS.
They're all too happy to send us to therapists and psychologists to diagnose our problems, but they don't show us how to effectively deal with the people we CAN'T change... namely, everybody else!
I got sick of being manipulated and gamed by other people, and I finally found a way out of it, AND to create real connections that count with other people so that everyone wins.
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